Four ways to get ahead
Drive them wild, not away
Go online. Age 50s and older are the fastest growing demographic on the dating website scene and they make up 20 percent of all users. “My mum found someone online in five months and she is 63,” says Whitney Casey, author of The Man Plan: Drive Men Wild...Not Away.
The stock markets may further contribute to a surge in online dating. “On days when the FTSE went down by 50 points, we found an increase in our site usage relative to when the FTSE increased by 50 points,” says Bill Lumley, a researcher for the dating website ClickMatures. “Economic news tends to be stressful, and as you become more stressed, you begin to look for things that will offer you comfort and help you out during these tough times.”
Post a flattering picture of yourself online, but don't use a photo 10 years younger than you are. “Get friends to look at the picture before you put it online and find the best picture that really represents who you are,” says Bill. You should also avoid exaggerating or downright lying in your profile. “The more descriptive and honest that you are, the better match you are actually going to make.”
Keep it light. Don't turn a first date into a job interview. Go into the meeting with the intention of having a good time. “Let go of the goal-oriented dating of finding a soul mate,” advises Bill. “You want to lower your expectation of finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. Find someone to date that seems intriguing to you.” Be open to experiencing each date and each person for what they have to offer.
Prepare conversation starters. There's nothing worse than awkward pauses on a first date that stretch into eternity. “You need to have a list of three sure-fire conversation starters and continuers,” says Bill. His favourite questions: What is the most memorable meal you've ever had? Where do you want to travel to? Movies, books, and television shows are also safe topics, he advises.